The Danger of December

"It's the most wonderful time of the year!" Or, is it? Ever notice how during December there is a spike in suicide, domestic violence, and in our case, acting out? Why is that? Let's begin to explore some of the whys behind this phenomenon of "the most wonderful time of the year--NOT!" Then , of course, let us draw our hearts to the only true and lasting solution to this dilemma.

Perhaps the best starting point is the reality that December draws emotions to the surface--both good and bad. Why is that? Well, as I have been pondering what to write in this promised post, I have noticed a few things. Here goes..

You see an enormous emphasis on families and family get-togethers in this month. If you're like me, divorced and separated from your family, this really hurts. If you're single you may experience deeper loneliness and heightened longings for relational intimacy as you observe the "family thing" as I call it. Likely you observe an enormous contrast between what you see and what you have. This can produce immense internal pain. And, as you can imagine, our preferred methods for medicating can be so easily employed to "soothe" this pain. But you guys know the end game for this--that downward spiral of guilt and shame that digs you deeper into the pit of despair than before. Don't go there.

December is also a highly commercialized month. The emphasis in our particular situation is the temptation to medicate our hurt with things, or big-boy toys. This too is futile. When can you ever have enough? How long does the excitement of your new "toy" last? You know the answers.

Then there's the usual environmental factors that can make December a blue month--darkness come sooner, it's cold (except right now in Central Ohio--yea, all we can do is dream of a White Christmas--taint happening, guys!)...but back to the thought, the month can normally be a little cold and dreary. This can affect your mood and spirit.

OK, I am sure there is much more that I can cite. I think now is the time to turn our hearts toward some ideas for coping with and actually enjoying December.

First and foremost is to draw close to the Lord Jesus with an honest spirit. Admit where you are with December. Don't play games with your feelings. Be honest. Then start thinking about how Jesus entered the world. It was not a friendly place for him. I really honed in on this thought as I watched The Nativity Story movie this past week. There were so many factors against the very survival of the Christ child! He does understand the many challenges and infirmities we experience. Read around Hebrews 4:15 and 16 to get that sweet assurance. He understands and He cares.

Then do those things that nurture your intimacy with Christ. In my case I went to many different Christmas programs at several churches. I went to the movie I cited above. Some nights I turned out the room lights, lit candles, and listened to Christmas music. The centerpiece of my personal embrace of Christmas was the reading of the magnificent book by Dr. John MacArthur, God's Gift of Christmas. That book is richer than pecan pie, if you know what I mean! Do what works for you--but please do it! Draw close to the Savior. He wants to draw close to you...but He won't force you!

Say like the concluding line of that grand Christmas song, "O come to my heart, Lord Jesus, there is room in my heart for you."